When Letting Go Feels Impossible: Reclaiming Self-Worth to make the right choice
Posted on May 06, 2025 by Aditya Kapoor, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Stuck in a marriage due to low self-worth? Learn how cognitive reframing can help you rediscover your strength and choose yourself—without guilt.
She knew the marriage had been over for a while.
There were no more shared dreams, no safety in silence, no warmth in their connection. And yet—she stayed. Not out of hope, but out of fear.
“What if no one ever loves me again?”
“Maybe this is the best I’ll ever get.”
“I’m too much… or not enough.”
This isn’t just a story about heartbreak. It’s a story about self-worth, about the quiet ways we internalize pain and shrink ourselves to fit into relationships that no longer serve us.
Why We Stay When We Know It’s Over
It’s easy to say “leave if you’re unhappy,” but for many women, it’s far more complex. Especially when self-worth has been slowly chipped away—by emotional neglect, repeated invalidation, or years of trying to fix something alone.
When our sense of identity becomes entangled with being “the good wife,” “the one who holds it all together,” or “the one who doesn’t give up,” the idea of ending a marriage can feel like failure. But staying in something that no longer reflects who you are can be its own kind of self-abandonment.
The Role of Cognitive Reframing
Cognitive reframing is a powerful tool that helps you challenge and reshape the internal beliefs that keep you stuck.
Instead of:
“I’m unlovable now that my marriage has failed,”
You begin to explore:
“This ending doesn’t define my worth—it reflects my courage to choose truth over fear.”
Cognitive reframing isn’t about denying pain. It’s about recognizing that your thoughts are not always the truth. They’re often reflections of past conditioning, wounds, and fears that deserve to be explored, not obeyed.
Moving From Fear to Self-Agency
At My Inner Alchemist, we create a space where you’re not judged for staying too long, or for grieving what you know wasn’t right. You’re supported in:
Naming the beliefs that keep you in patterns of self-doubt and fear.
Exploring where those beliefs began—and whether they truly belong to you.
Rewriting your internal story to reflect your strength, not your scars.
Learning to hold both loss and self-trust, as you move toward what’s next.
You Are Not Failing—You Are Becoming
Leaving a marriage doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re listening to the part of you that still believes in the possibility of joy, peace, and connection. It means you’re honoring your truth.
Yes, grief will visit. Doubt will whisper. But so will clarity, self-respect, and eventually—lightness.
At My Inner Alchemist, we don’t just help you “move on.” We help you move inward—to reclaim your voice, your worth, and the life you were meant to lead.
