Do Not Give Up on Love: My Personal Philosophy
Posted on July 13, 2025 by Anil Kanthi, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Reflections on the depth and endurance of true love and refusal to give up
When I feel in the core of my being that this person is meant to be with me for the rest of my life, creating those memories and beautiful moments that I’ll reminisce about in my 70s or 80s, I refuse to give up.
Those who easily give up on love are often:
Haven’t found THE person — Not in terms of perfection, but THE one with whom I can connect in the same profound way I connect with my deepest truth. This depth of love transcends the mere word or feeling of love; it arrives without a start or an end to be eternally present in that moment of profound connection. Such love is unfathomable to those who haven’t explored the depths of life themselves.
Do. Not. Give. Up. If there is depth in the love, I share it with another.
Have fallen out of love — which was strong at the beginning but over the years has withered away because we end up living with the images of each other in our minds rather than seeing the person for who they are in the present.
Yes, there are things I must deal with.
Yes, there are pains I will feel or live through.
Yes, there will be hard times that will test my patience.
Yes, both my partner and I will inevitably say or do something that can’t be undone.
Yes, every single person on this planet will experience good and bad times in a relationship because it involves two different people coming together. Just as atoms release and expend energy on a smaller scale, two people coming together will generate friction, which we label as problems, conflicts, and incompatibilities.
Here’s what I’ve come to understand:
We don’t have to be compatible to be together.
The differences in how people are is precisely why coming together happens in the first place.
Imagine if the first time I met my partner, we had exactly the same qualities and personality without any differences; we wouldn’t be able to distinguish ourselves from each other except by appearance. This scenario wouldn’t lead to love.
We as humans fall in love — I mean genuine & pure love without corruption — when we see that the other brings experiences that I, by myself, cannot because it’s impossible.
Just as I feel good and alive with nature, which is external to me, a partner entering my life has a unique set of experiences, with limitations, but also with enormous potential for personal growth and change.
Experiences are the foundation of why I fall in love with another person.
