Which Way is Out?
Posted on July 30, 2025 by Quentin Newhouse, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.
The first step is the most difficult one to take in resolving life's challenges. if I can just get out of my own way and fear, there is hope.
Have you ever felt really stuck on a life challenge and felt that it is like quicksand? I read somewhere that if you know how to “lay flat” on quicksand, you will not sink. That thought revolves around a belief structure that just because this situation looks helpless, there may be an option I had not considered because others told me it would not work. Receiving coaching is that “laying flat” by taking another perspective on the issue. Good coaches only ask questions with the confidence that all the answers any client ever needs is right there, lodged in his/her head. Brainstorming with the coach and having the coach actually listen to you and with permission, challenge you, seems a likely way out of the problems. First, if the problem is complex, try “boiling it down” to it’s “lowest common denominator”. In real language, sort it out into manageable issues, prioritize what is urgent and then decide what baby steps to take to address the smaller components of the issue. Good coaching takes its time in realizing that there are no magical, instantaneous solutions, unless insight and revelation occur in the client’s mind. What it takes is getting out of one’s own way, realizing that one has come this far by resilience and perhaps by faith. As in a maze, there are several ways out of the problem. The question becomes “which way out?” and am I willing to take the first step in that direction. Any life or professional problem has been experienced by someone somewhere else at another time. What it takes is to believe that particular strategy may be within the questioning of a good coach, and trusting that together, you and that good coach will find your way out together. That is how I have been coaching professionally for more than 13 years and how I fashion my life. Everything I have ever learned is applicable and should be utilized to help others as it has helped me. I take a spiritual spin on my coaching and realize that God never made “junk”, we just are in a junky situation and need help in finding our way out. Let me help you find your way out.
