5 Radical Self-Love Practices to Transform Your Relationships—and Your Life
Posted on August 03, 2025 by Maria Rei, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
These 5 daily self-love rituals helped me reclaim my worth, attract healthy love, and transform every relationship in my life.
I don’t teach radical self-love because it was easy for me. I teach it because it wasn’t.
For years, self-loathing, self-abandonment, and self-rejection were my default setting. I confused people-pleasing with kindness. I thought settling was noble. I gave more than I had and begged for breadcrumbs.
Until one day, I stopped.
I took a 7-year hiatus from relationships. One that kicked off with 6 messy, and magical months in Southeast Asia. There, somewhere between the sunset meditations and the buckets of Mai Tai’s, I reclaimed myself.
Here are the 5 radical self-love practices that changed everything:
1. I ask myself how I feel and what I need—every single morning.
Because if I don’t check in with me, I’ll keep checking out of me. This is where self-connection begins. It’s not just a journal prompt or a morning routine—it’s an act of radical self-respect. When you wake up and immediately tune into you, you signal to your nervous system that your feelings are valid and your needs matter. It keeps you grounded in your truth instead of getting swept up in everyone else’s energy or expectations.
Self-love isn’t just in how we treat ourselves. It’s in how often we’re willing to listen to ourselves.
2. I set a daily intention.
This anchors me. It reminds me who I am and how I want to show up. Intentions guide energy. And when you set one each day—whether it’s “I choose peace” or “I embody worthiness”—you give your heart, mind, and body a direction. Without it, we slip into autopilot and forget we have power over how we respond, lead, and love. This small act has a big energetic impact.
An intention is a declaration to the Universe—and to yourself—that you’re choosing to lead your day, not survive it.
3. I say yes to what aligns—and no to what doesn’t.
No more bending, contorting, or betraying myself to be loved. Alignment is now the standard.
This was one of the hardest and most liberating shifts I ever made. As someone who used to make herself small to keep the peace, saying “no” felt like abandonment. But here’s what I’ve learned: when you say yes to what dishonors you, you abandon yourself. And the love you’re trying to earn by doing so? It’s never the love that truly fulfills.
Every ‘no’ rooted in self-respect is a ‘yes’ to the woman you’re becoming.
4. I stopped shaming myself for where I am.
I no longer measure my worth by my productivity, my pain, or my past. Shame was the shadow that followed me everywhere. I thought if I judged myself enough, I’d finally become “better.” But it never worked. True transformation began the moment I met myself with compassion, not criticism. Healing doesn’t happen because we bully ourselves into it—it happens because we love ourselves through it.
Wherever you are today is not your final destination. But it is sacred. And it deserves your love, not your shame.
5. I choose self-acceptance over self-improvement.
Loving myself isn’t a reward for getting it all right. It’s a daily decision. A lifestyle. Self-love isn’t a checkbox. It’s not something you earn when your to-do list is complete or when you finally become the “healed” version of yourself. It’s something you choose, right here, right now, in the messy middle. The paradox? The more you accept yourself as you are, the more space you create for real, embodied growth.
Self-acceptance doesn’t mean you stop evolving. It means you stop abandoning yourself on the way there.
These practices didn’t just transform my relationship with myself. They transformed every relationship in my life. They even transformed my relationship with my life. Because when you love yourself deeply, you raise the standard for how the world loves you too.
