NOW! Is all that matters
The future is simply something what you can imagine but will only become real based on what your actions are NOW.What you do at this moment determines the next and so on and so on. So if you have started the New year armed with dreams and goals then its a great first step. Having no goals is having no direction which is a guarantee to no change. Some goals are going to be easy to achieve, (those are the ones we like) They are also important because we get that feeling of achievement which is what we need to tackle the bigger goals. Some of our bigger goals have deeper seated beliefs attached which can be rooted well in our ubconcious.
(don’t like those ones) and it is those thoughts which are hard to break. Science is now discovering that our thoughts are not as hard wired as we are lead to believe, and that the brain is plastic and can be re-wired to a large extent. Your old hardwiring can be however stronger than your
attempts at developing new neural networks. Imagine decades of thought paths etched deeply in our brain. I think of a river which has gouged out its path deep within the earth which would have once started out as a trickling stream. Just like our early thoughts which turn into beliefs either about yourself, others or the world around you. That’s why
sometimes a good ‘storm’ can change a rivers course! Just like a tragedy in our lives almost always re-routes some thought paths. However, try and not wait for a tragedy, why not try and re-root some of those debilitating thoughts right now. It does mean though that to change something hardwired requires your active participation. Yep that means you have to DO something and possibly something different than you are already doing. Try not to bury your head in the sand, or rush off to meet Mr or Mrs ‘right’ in the hope they ‘complete’ you! A lot of people look for temporary outs with substances that change their brains for them. All but short term solutions.
If you can get to the point of seeing that you have an active part to play in your own life then that means you are also a part of your future. That means that you are more powerful than you thought and that you have the capabilities and the disposition to be more in control of your own life. That doesnt mean you get to decide exactly all that happens to you, but to a degree you can, and the parts you can’t control you will know how to deal with once you become equipped with more knowledge and confidence in making your own decisions.
Carla is Whanganui’s Wellness Coach
Ph: 021 1658 961
Counselling skills Certified/REPS registered.