Parents, Lecturers, Teachers, Life Coaches, Mentors...Lend me your ears!
Students that have conflicts with their Lecturers...need to be heard and vice versa.
Why is it that some of our children, youths, students feel that they are always right…so when you get a person from whatever category, one of the aforementioned being prepared to listen to comments being made after asking for a meeting, can this not only result in raising respect levels for all parties concerned? That is, should respect be given for the duration of the meeting by all attendees.
Sometimes it takes a situation to occur for the best things to happen, no matter how negative the situation may be!
It does help however, if the Teacher/Lecturer/Life Coach/Mentor has seated with them parent(s) who are educated and respectful enough to allow the meeting to be conducted in a way that all parties are allowed to express themselves freely and that which is stated is respected and heard.
So, a student may feel uncomfortable… and as a result of stating this to their parent(s) who have probably due to their own stresses interpreted their concerns to be more than what they actually are and sending in a complaint on their childs behalf……isn’t it great when you can all sit down and with patience and equal respect; everyone present being allowed to have their say, come out of such a meeting feeling progress has been made?.
The student knows the error of thier ways and not only that exactly how the parent/lecturer/teacher/coach/mentor feels about them, being their capacbilities and areas that they need to improve so as to achieve, which is what everyone wants, isn’t it?
The lecturers hear from the students their perspective on how they find it hard to deal with life issues and college/school/life pressures. Without having moments of self-expression, which is seen to the lecturer as being distractive/problematic/disruptive for other members being taught, a lot of our students are being removed from the educational system.
Together student/child/youth, lecturer/parent(s), formulating a plan for everyone to be happy with…is possible.
A Plan that summarises that which was discussed and how it will be managed differently in the future.
A Plan that leaves the student feeling heard and respected and feeling better than how they felt prior to the meeting.
A Plan that empowers the teacher/lecturers/mentor/life coach to know that they have the support of the parent(s) to do as they are doing. Working in partnership with the parent to get the best out of the student as all is now out in the open.
Sometimes when parents/students/youths/children complain, the parties being complained about can become very defensive which is normal human behavior…but as is stated…“The truth sets you free”.
When the truth is expressed in the right environment…MAGIC HAPPENS.
So for all you students out there and parents that may have a gripe or bone to pick with someone who you feel is being a ‘bug bear’, or adversary to your offspring…before putting pen to paper and complaining…:
Ask for a meeting first
Make sure that when you attend it, you do not go in there intending to defend your child as this is your duty – as they may not be doing as they should be doing and your duty is to find out the facts and resolve the situation amicably.
Be prepared to listen attentively and formulate an informed decision after hearing what all parties have had to say.
Be calm, respectful but most of all…listen and only speak when asked to or when you have requested to speak.
Change will occur and hopefully for the better…because if you have a positive expectation from anything more than likely you will probably get positive results.
Students and parents supported with educational setting problems by external professionals do have a chance of getting their situation resolved alot better than with scheduled meetings with staff within the school system. One of the reasons why this happens from what I have gathered from those that I have spoken to is because…they are not seen as part of the team and so the parents and child feel as though you being the Advocate/Coach are acting in their best interest.
So in times of struggle with your child, with a school/college issue, always try to resolve it with the school/college as your child has to attend and it is best resolved amicably. If this fails, then there are Coaches/Advocates/Mentors available in the community to help you…I am a Life/Family/Business Coach, so please call if you need to talk about any situation and never think that you are ever alone.