Your First Aid Kit for getting Un-Stuck
Posted on November 10, 2012 by Lizelle Le Roux , One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Four steps to interrupt your head spin, relax your energy and open you up to new possibilities.
Do you have the same thoughts going around and around in your head? You’re trying to figure it out, but just can’t see a way out of this head spin? Here are just four things to do, which will interrupt this cycle, stop the spinning, allow you to catch your breath, and open up to new possibilities you haven’t been able to see yet.
1 SURRENDER
2 FEEL
3 RELAX
4 OPEN
1 SURRENDER
STOP everything! PAUSE… BREATHE! Allow everything to be exactly as it is. Release all resistance and attachment.
Let go… the entire physical body contracts with the tension of holding on. Nothing new can come in while we’re so tight that nothing moves.
Usually stuckness is caused by a fear (conscious or unconscious) of letting go of something, which is preventing what is needed for you to move forward, from coming in.
For just one day, or even an hour, let go of everything you think you want or need. Agree with yourself that you are not ‘giving up’ anything forever, you can take it all back in a day. But for NOW, take it all off your back and shoulders and out of your head, and wherever else it is, and put it in an imaginary box with a heavy lid. Use your hands, and take your time doing this… get it ALL out and off, and in the box.
Do a relaxation exercise which contracts and relaxes each muscle of the body while you’re lying down. And just ALLOW everything exactly as it is, as it feels, in the body.
To assist the mind in letting go of its holding on, try the following:
Imagine yourself hanging on to whatever you’re holding on to, with your hands, for dear life, with a big black hole beneath you. Now, LET GO of what you’re holding on to and allow yourself to fall, fall down the black hole, keep falling, until you reach the end. Imagine a soft platform of golden light eventually come into your vision, and land on it. The Universe, God, Life holds you, loves you and supports you. Allow it!
2 FEEL your feelings
BREATHE… FEEL your body.
BREATHE some more…
BREATHE all the way down to your feet.
FEEL your feet touching the floor, wiggle your toes, push your big toes into the floor.
BREATHE deeply, sigh or groan as you breathe out. Do this at least 10 times.
What are you actually FEELING?
FEEL it! Express it!
A good cry opens up SO much space, and leaves you lighter. So do screams, best done underwater or into a pillow.
Then…
“Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.” - Joseph Campbell
3 RELAX
Preferably not a form of relaxation where your mind would be free to worry. Do something you LOVE and can fully engage with, which will switch off your mind chatter, like surfing, climbing, skiing, chess, dancing, art, wood carving, ie. practice a skill that takes up all your focus, like Chinese tea pouring.
“Insist on yourself. Never imitate.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson
4 OPEN
Open up to new possibilities.
Ask QUESTIONS without having specific answers in mind already, and without wanting them answered immediately. Simply ask and then forget about it. This allows space after the question, to free you from intellectualising it, and rather to feel the answers and receive them when they come.
‘Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions, then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart.’ – Carl W Buechner
Here are a few suggestions for questions to ask.
What else is possible?
Who can I be today that would allow me to receive the answers I’ve never been able to before?
What energy can I be, that would allow me to have total clarity and ease with all of this?
What do I think I need to hold on to, but really I don’t, that if I let it go, it would change my life?
What would the energy of my life be like, if I were choosing it for the joy of it?
What truth about me have I been refusing to see, that if I did, it would change my life?
How could this situation get even better?
“I’ve always been more comfortable making my decisions from the subconscious level, or more emotionally, because I find it is more truthful.” – Tim Burton
Author’s Bio: Lizelle Le Roux, Elome Transformational Life Coaching, specialises in Subconscious Self Sabotaging behaviours. She assists clients to identify the root cause of what is keeping them stuck, and then facilitate the release of the associated limiting beliefs, subconscious vows, or patterns of behaviour.
Author of ‘Exposing the Forces that Sabotage Us’
www.elome.net coach@elome.net
