Look Around! You might be missing out on something great!
Posted on May 01, 2013 by Clary Torres, One of Thousands of Health and Fitness Coaches on Noomii.
That special person maybe there all along.
If your single parent wishing you have husband/wife. Appreciate the extra time you have to dedicate to your children. It may not be what you wanted for yourself or what God wanted for you either, but ultimately God uses all things for our good. You don’t understand why that special person has not shown up in your life yet.. Who knows, maybe in this time in your life, your children may need your undivided attention for whatever reason. Don’t fight your circumstances, embrace them. Love your children a little longer a little harder. The stress that children go through these days is unbelievable. They are not always going to be around. They grow up and have families of their own or some tragic event can take them away.
Now..LOOK AROUND, That special person maybe there all along and your not seeing it. Why? Maybe because of that long list of “must have’s” you created just after your divorce, you know, in your bitter stage. First take a look at yourself, Would you make someone else’s “must have’s” list? Yes, you do have to have some “must have’s”. Will these things matter when your going through hard times and this is the one person who has stayed by your side, who can turn your frown to a smile? Will these things matter when your old and gray? Stop pushing people away out of fear!
Married? I’ll share this true story. When I was married, but going through hard times. I was taking some classes, the teacher was sharing stories with us and someone asked her “why did she get divorce?” Her answer impacted me so much, I will never forget her answer and how she answer it. Her face went blank as if she could not think of “why” and yet somewhat horrified, she said “you know, after it’s all said and done, you don’t even remember, the things you fight about, you realize they were so meaningless” Having been married for 13 years and now single for 8 years, I completely understand her answer. Granted there are some things like adultery or abuse that are just not acceptable, like it was in my case. But it is not the case in most divorce today. The single life is not all that is cracked up to be. After awhile the clubs/bars are just a cold place to be. We are always too quick to look outside for “self-fulfillment” and not take the time to see what God has placed right before us, our blessings right under our nose.
Single or Married, appreciate the people in your life. Like I said before, God strategically places people in your life to help you accomplish your purpose. The people in your life are their to challenge you, to help you grow. Yep, even the ones that annoy you. They teach you patients, unconditional love, long suffering etc. = True love. We cannot do it alone. Alone you will stand still.
