Detour Ahead - When the Road of Life Gets off Track
Posted on September 21, 2010 by Bernette Sherman, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Does your life seem blocked? Do you need to figure out where you are going and how to get there? Don't let detours and roadblocks stop your progress.
Life is a lot like a road trip. With its twist and turns, places to stop, yield, merge, and even find an alternate route due to detours and roadblocks. It’s how we navigate the journey that defines us, help us learn, helps us grow. Whether you reach your destination or find yourself going in circles can be the result of something as simple as following the directions and the signs you see.There are those who jump in the car with nothing more than a change of underclothes and there are others who plan out every single detail, trying to account for every possible unexpected incident. Between those two spectrums are where most of us live, doing some planning ahead and preparation, but not so much as to take the fun out of it.
Whatever your planning style, don’t let detours ruin your journey. But if you’ve been detoured or haven’t necessarily been following your map, what do you do? Being lost on a road trip is completely frustrating and drains your energy and enthusiasm for your trip. You may question whether this journey is really one you should have taken, where you may have lost your way, and if you will ever see a familiar landmark so you can get back on track.
We experience detours in areas of our life such as our career, relationships with friends, family, and significant others, and even in things such as how you have presented yourself to the world (your image and style and extra-curricular activities). Perhaps you’ve started a career path and two years later asked yourself why you are doing it, wondering if you’d be better doing something else, or why you can’t stand going to work every day. It can come out in relationships when you begin thinking that you don’t fit with your friends, you realize you want to do more with your life but it would require what seems like a complete turn around and starting over again. You may even question whether you can be the best version of yourself with the person you are with. Perhaps you’ve felt like the person you present to the world doesn’t serve you and where you want to go anymore. You are at a point where you may need to turn around when possible, or find an alternate route. You may even need to find a new destination.
There are things you can do to get back on the right road or to figure where you want to go so you can get on the right road. Consider some honest work and some self-analysis. Ask yourself the tough questions you may have been avoiding, using excuses such as ‘I don’t have time right now’, ‘it’s not the right time to focus on me’, “I just have too much other stuff on my plate”, or “I should be grateful for what I have, it’s not so bad’. This last one is very dangerous because it sets a standard for yourself based on others, not on what you truly want for yourself. These excuses serve as roadblocks to a better life.
Roadblocks can cause us to stagnate especially if we don’t turn around or don’t find a new route. We remain trapped, simply staying on this road that up ahead is blocked, going nowhere.
Make a choice to start living today; to decide where you want to be and how to get there. There will always be signs to yield, merge, turn around, find a new route and detours, its how you deal with them that will determine how quickly you reach your destination.
Roll on!
_Bernette is a Certified Professional Coach in the Atlanta, Georgia area. She provides in person coaching and by phone and Skype. Contact her for a free consultation if you are ready to get your life on to get on the right road for your life.
-http://www.bernettesherman.com
