How to Build Your Self-Confidence Daily
Posted on March 05, 2018 by Allison Sweeney, One of Thousands of Health and Fitness Coaches on Noomii.
Self-confidence is a mindset we must learn, make effort to maintain, and find the discipline to practice. We will not always be in control.
“Confidence is the only key. I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone
who is unafraid to be herself.” – Emma Stone
Self-confidence is a mindset we must learn, make effort to maintain, and find the discipline to practice. We will not always be in control. We are guaranteed to face challenges, which can shake our confidence, but the correct mindset can get us back on track.
Our self-confidence can be obvious to anyone, whether they are correct or not. The way our “outer shell” appears, how we speak, what we say about ourselves, our attitude and body language can all weigh down self-confidence. We can all use a tune up time and again, so let me ask you…how do you view and feel about yourself these days?
It is critical to learn, practice and strive to master the “art” of self-confidence. It is important to be patient and have an ability to make changes when you have gotten off track. Take it easy on yourself.
Are you ready for your tune-up?
No, you don’t need to be dressed in the finest brands or draped in expensive jewels, but what does your outer shell communicate? Are you hanging around in your P.J.’s all day, or are you getting up, putting on something that fits and is fresh, maybe even putting on a touch of make-up or some earrings. We deserve to be well-groomed. What part are you looking to play? Do you look the part?
Assertiveness is key…not aggressiveness. When communicating, it is important to speak up and speak clearly to be heard. It doesn’t matter if you are in line ordering a cup of coffee, or in the middle of a board meeting. Effective communication skills are important part of outer confidence.
It is amazing what our body language communicates without having to speak one word. You can typically tell how someone is feeling just by looking at them. How do you carry yourself? Do you hold yourself up straight when sitting or walking, point yourself in the direction to whom you are speaking, maintain eye-contact, and do you have a loosey-goosey handshake?
We all know the “glass is half empty” kind of person. That personality type has the capacity to suck the life right out of any room. Why? It is draining, discouraging and life is simply trying enough. There is no reason to surround ourselves with people who will point out and emphasize every negative thing. It is exhausting. What about you? Are you more likely to be negative than positive? Positive thoughts and actions can lead to positive outcomes. I say it to my children all the time, “bad attitudes, produce bad results.” What do you allow yourself to say?
What can be even more damaging? What we are saying to ourselves. Remember, no matter what you say or think your self-confidence and esteem are listening.
Failure, what if’s, and unexpected obstacles are all opportunities to go back to our “drawing boards”. Let’s not stay focused on what didn’t work, but rather why. Then make a fresh plan. Staying stuck in self-pity, fear, shame or sadness is not for anyone’s life = ever!
One of my favorite quotes…
“I have not failed. I’ve found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” -Thomas Edison
Think fear and doubt ever crept into his mind? Do you think others might have thought he was odd or told him to quit? What is your roadblock? What is at the root of that blockage?
VISION AND GOALS
Do you like the way things in your life are going? Have you considered making a change? Inaction can produce doubt and fear, but belief that you can succeed, becoming prepared to take an action, can restore self-confidence.
What are your strengths and weaknesses? Are you working within your “wheelhouse” or are you forcing something that is unnatural to you? Ponder the thought of change. Yes, I am talking to you, and it is most definitely possible. What is your vision or goal? Are you actively pursuing it?
Do you have any? The solution isn’t to slam down more caffeine. Rather, examine the way you treat your body. What is your sleep schedule, are you exercising, and what are you eating and drinking? We must take care of ourselves.
Last, but certainly not least…our environment. Anyone would find it difficult to have self-confidence if we are sharing space with someone who is shaming us, mistreating us, and breaking us down. Harsh words and mistreatment has the power to take the legs out from under the most confident person.
It is time to reprioritize, and begin prioritizing you. Use these seven ways to build and maintain your daily self-confidence. By doing so, you will begin to contemplate ways to begin living confidently. You will notice a renewed feeling of empowerment, and empowered people can become unstoppable at being excellently fulfilling to…themselves!
Not sure where to start, or you just don’t believe you can find your self-confidence or esteem. Take my invitation for a free introductory strategy session. You will experience a soft place to “fall”. Believe me, I know you have it in you, but I know sometimes the thought of trying can be overwhelming. Let’s find it together. You are SO worth it. Connect with me…