Stop the blaming process after Divorce
Posted on April 10, 2018 by Eric Bensoussan, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
After Divorce or Breakup, there is a time to stop blaming your ex for everything.
STOP THE BLAMING PROCESS TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
Here we are again, on how the divorce makes us feel bad about everything.
On how we become judgemental and start to blame others for our own insecurities.
This is not my fault, he or she did that……my parents did that, my sister or brother makes me feel that way, etc…
We always find someone to blame.
Does it make you feel good about yourself?
Maybe, but this is an illusion. It’s too easy to think that you are not in control, and that there is some other power taking control over you. This is not the case, and deep down you know it.
You are under the illusion that everything is separated, that you are separated from others, from yourself. You are under the illusion that it’s you against the world.
You are under the illusion that you are not responsible about how your life unfolds.
Do you really want to feel sorry about yourself?
I am assuming the answer is no. The only reason I know it, it’s because we rather want feel good that feel sorry.
Taking responsibility is accepting somehow, that you have your part in what created of your reality, and circumstances.
What if you start taking 100% responsibility for your life, and start to create the life you want.
Would that make you feel empowered ?
You are not separated from anything, you are whole and complete, and perfect as you are. You are born with love and everything you need within yourself.
Taking responsibility for your life will connect your power within. Start another dialog with yourself: I am in charge of my life, and I have the power to create anything I want despite my circumstances.
So what is it that really want and why ?
Who do I want to become?
What do I want experience in my life?
What do I need now in order to move forward?
Reflecting or regaining your power back is far more important that to be annoyed that your ex is late for taking the kids or anything else that could happened (and the list is long , right?) and that you have no control of.
So what is your power?
What is your spirit?
What makes you feel alive?
What makes you feel excited for?
How do you connect to your intuition?
What would make me feel good ?
Take some time to write the answers of those questions, and reflect on them and see how you feel about it.
This new dialog with yourself is a shift of perspective that will give you more clarity.
If you can’t answer right away to these questions, it’s ok. There is no right or wrong answers, only the answers that matters to you, and will support your growth.
How would you feel right now if you already know all the answers of all the questions?
Then you can take responsibility for your happiness, and for the way you feel.
Only you have the power to be happy, to be present, and to create a new experience of your life.
The only way to create a new experience, is to change the way you think, the way you behave, the choices you make and the way you feel.
Would it be amazing to feel in charge of your life and happiness?
Leave all the stories and excuses behind you, and start now to experience o new way of being yourself.
Send me an email with your thoughts. I would like to hear about your journey and your experiences.
