DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO GIVE UP THE NEED TO BE RIGHT?
WARNING: Practicing this behavior may go against your basic survival instincts.
GIVE UP THE NEED TO BE RIGHT? BUT I MIGHT DIE!
Have you ever been faced with an opportunity to give up being right, only to feel like you might die if you do?
Our bodies and minds are built to survive. So when the mind regards a simple argument as a life-threatening event, we no longer distinguish real danger from the perceived kind.
When we’re under this kind of stress our amygdala goes into overdrive, fight or flight ensues and the hijacking begins. (Is it ironic justice that this portion of our brain commands us from the RIGHT hemisphere?)
BEING RIGHT CAN DAMAGE YOUR HEALTH
There are side effects to letting that cherry-shaped part of our noggin take over. Emotional stress impacts our metabolism, digestion, heart health, sleep, immunities and even our sex drive.
Furthermore “stress mind” is not where our most considerate, creative and intelligent decisions originate.
It’s also at moments like this when giving up being right is most useful. Personally speaking, I’d say somewhere between 98-100% of my suffering arises and thrives when I’m being right. Sometimes I see it coming and back off, but sometimes I see it coming and force the issue right on through anyway. When I do that, I demonstrate the opposite of this behavior, and I never EVER win. Even if I do win, I lose. I lose connection, affinity, wellbeing and all authentic power.
It’s a strange set-up with clear byproducts.
Here we are given this enormous drive that you could equate to the force of a teenage boy’s hormones, with equally little control over its evil powers. It’s kind of like being behind the wheel of a 300 MPH drag racer with no steering wheel. What are the chances that’s going to turn out well?
I’m guessing like me, you deal with this on more occasions than you’d like. Also if you’re like me, sometimes you give up the need to be right and sometimes you don’t.
It’s never too late to give up the need to be right. Even in the aftermath and the smoke has cleared, we can go back in there and apologize. There are times I do that immediately. Sometimes I take longer than I should, (but I’m improving).
No matter how much it may feel like it, no one ever died from giving up the need to be right. In fact due to all the adverse effects, making this choice may actually extend your life, but … results may vary.