Making Difficult Decisions
The following is an established technique to help you get through a difficult decision time.
A simple yet powerful tool for when you are stuck, or have a big decision to make:
First, the process is done in longhand on paper. This is important, as writing uses a different part of our brain than typing.
Step 1: State the situation, and list what thoughts and feelings come up for you.
Step 2: Make a T shape on the paper. Label one arm of the T as Advantages. Label the other arm as Disadvantages. You can use Benefits and Costs if these terms are better for you.
Step 3: Make lists in the columns under the arms, as Advantages/Disadvantages, to you. This can relate to staying in a situation, moving on, or whatever action(s) you have considered.
Step 4: Ask yourself: Have your feelings about this situation changed? Are your possible actions clearer?
Please let me know what you think about this tool. Many of my clients have found it to be very helpful.