6 Reasons to Restore and Improve your couple relationship
Posted on May 10, 2019 by Julius Xavier, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.
The sooner you apologize the better it is for your relationship. Else inability to apologize can destroy your relationship.
Apologizing is often the first step towards asking for forgiveness and healing. It will significantly reduce the level of anger and initiate the process of restoring and improving trust.
Apologizing also allows you to grow because admitting your mistake is the hardest thing to do. However demonstrating your vulnerability and humility by apologizing will make you a likable person.
So, apologize on time and build a strong relationship.
A journey in relationship is a roller-coaster ride. It is full of ups and downs. Best relationships have the ability to show you your strengths and weaknesses. A couple will experience moments when one partner stands up for the other no matter what and also moments when they quarrel and fight. That’s totally normal because you don’t fight with everyone you come across. You quarrel with those with whom you share a close and caring relationship.
There is one thing that can make a friendship more beautiful after a small fight. That is apologizing when you go wrong. It is important to specifically acknowledge that you are sorry. It is enough to simply say ‘I am sorry’ and thereby acknowledge that a mistake has hurt the relationship.
Here is why you should swallow your ego, pride, stop focusing on yourself and apologize to show your respect towards your spouse and that you value your relationship.
It builds respect: Relationships are built on respect, and saying ‘I am sorry’ shows that you respect another person’s feelings.
It brings healing: When you refuse to apologize, you allow the wrong to poison your relationship. The wrong leads to negative communication, grudges and resentment, which will eventually destroy the relationship.
Grow closer to each other: It’s easy to talk about things when you’re right but when you admit your mistakes and flaws, you demonstrate a deeper level of trust in and caring for the other person.
Shows your integrity: If you don’t apologize, it doesn’t make your mistake disappear. Now it’s an elephant in the room. Owning your mistakes only makes you a better person and it proves your integrity. It also helps others trust you.
Dissolve guilt for both: An effective apology doesn’t just heal the wound for the other person, it will dissolve your guilt too. Eventually, you develop a sense of self-respect and the ability to move on quickly. It also serves as a deterrent, so that you don’t repeat the mistakes again.
Offer compensation: This indicates to your spouse that you are genuinely remorseful for the harmful act and interested in finding a way to facilitate with the healing process. It restores what you took away from your spouse when you wronged your spouse’s self-worth and self-esteem.
