The Six Commitments: Love Without Performance™
Posted on July 26, 2025 by Brad Stevenson, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Quantum Behavioral Psychology® teaches that love is a frequency, not a transaction. And it only heals when it’s no longer tied to performance.
The Six Commitments: Love Without Performance™
Love isn’t something we earn. It’s something we remember.
But most of us were taught the opposite—that love has to be performed for, won, or deserved. Over time, this creates silent scorecards, emotional contracts, and unspoken resentment.
Quantum Behavioral Psychology® teaches that love is a frequency, not a transaction. And it only heals when it’s no longer tied to performance.
That’s why we developed The Six Commitments.
They’re not rules. They’re anchors. And when practiced, they recalibrate your nervous system to receive and give real love.
1. I Commit to Loving You Without Needing You to Earn It.
No more silent conditions. No reward-based affection. Just love—freely given.
2. I Commit to Staying When It’s Easier to Run.
Not out of obligation, but out of courage. Real love stays present.
3. I Commit to Letting You See Me.
Not my highlight reel—my truth.
4. I Commit to Not Using Your Wounds Against You.
If you trust me with your pain, I protect it. I don’t weaponize it.
5. I Commit to Returning After I Leave.
We all shut down. But love knows how to return, repair, and reconnect.
6. I Commit to Holding a Vision for You When You’ve Lost It.
When you forget who you are, I’ll remind you—gently, fiercely, faithfully.
These are the six commitments of Love Without Performance™.
They are the foundation of unshakable relationships.
—Dr. Bradford Stevenson
Founder, Quantum Behavioral Psychology®
