Path of Forgiveness
Posted on September 16, 2015 by Brenda Mailer, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
There is more to forgiveness than simply forgiving. Here I offer you a way to learn to forgive and how to take the lessons with you.
Carrying past hurt, anger, or frustration around with you can be toxic. These negative emotions can cause dis-ease on so many levels in our being. However, it is possible to release these negative feelings with the gentle use of forgiveness.
When situations cause us to feel hurt, angry, or frustrated there is a piece of us that tends to hide. We feel vulnerable and our instinct is to protect ourself. These feelings will often be that protector.
So, how can we still be protected, yet release the harmful emotions that can cause this toxic dis-ease?
Here are some steps to help you work through a situation to forgive, not to forget, but to release.
1. Acknowledge the feelings that are showing up – is it hurt, anger, frustration, or something else?
2. Clarify what situation is causing these feelings.
3. Become aware of your perception of the situation.
4. For a moment, try looking at the situation from perception of anyone else who is involved.
5. Now, check in with your feelings again, and notice their impact on you physically, emotionally, and mentally.
6. Ask yourself, how will these feelings impact me in the long term if I hold onto them?
7. Then, notice how you feel now.
8. Now ask, what do I need to release these feelings? And honour that, with truth, self-love, and kindness towards others.
To help gain clarity at any time during this process, here are a few options to help you:
– journal to get out all of your thoughts and emotions
– take a walk outdoors to find emotional and mental clarity
– sit in silence and ground yourself with meditation
If you choose to speak to anyone involved, please ensure you are not laying blame, but first ask them to hear you and once you have been heard completely, then ask if they have anything to offer or say.
Forgiveness does not only occur by speaking to someone about the situation. But by simply, releasing the negative emotions that were held, we can release our ties to the situation and be free from it.
Forgiveness is not about forgetting, because there are lessons in everything we do, it is about releasing and moving forward with the lesson.
Is there a situation you could forgive and release? What lessons have you learned from forgiving?
I would love to hear from you.
May you always find the path to forgiveness.
Thank you for reading this article.
