THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE

Posted on June 18, 2018 by Sydney Ceruto, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Ever wonder what stops you from feeling the good things you already have?
You have worked hard for your job, home, car, friends and family. When you were growing up, all you could do was dream about one day having these things. Now these things are available to you plus a host of other nice things, good things, great things and kind things…….BUT your mind barely notices them. Your brain has been programmed to want to just move on so you can get to the next thing.
It never ends; its appetite for the next thing is insatiable. It seems almost everything is a means to an end…some evasive, elusive “end” that never comes.
This is the dreary fog in which we walk around in, never really seeing, feeling or tasting any of the precious things life brings to us. This has to change if we ever want to experience true and enduring happiness.
We must understand that the degree to which we give this moment our full attention and focus will be the degree to which the next moment is prepared for us. Life is not a series of obstacles to get through everyday. For what? When does the pleasure start? When we get home from work? When we get the kids to bed or when we finish the work we’ve brought home?
The pleasure is hiding in plain view within each moment we experience. The pleasure is recognizing that there is no other place to be but in this moment. It is the pleasure of not running ahead worrying about stuff that has not even happened, the pleasure of seeing the smiles on the faces of friends and colleagues that we normally only glance at. This pleasure entails smiling right now and knowing things don’t have to be perfect to feel good right now. We must learn to come out of this negative fog and never allow it to control our attitudes and moods again.
The key here is to feel the same amount of positive emotion toward these things as you would experience negatively if they weren’t there. Remember, using these good feelings to trigger our feel good brain chemicals is the cornerstone of this practice. Just thinking about them, talking about them, or remembering them will not work because these brain chemicals are not released by our prefrontal cortex, the thinking part of our brains. They are only released by the limbic system, your emotional center, so you have to try and feel these good things to trigger their release.
The first thing I work with my clients on, is looking at the current conditions in their life. Once we identify the good, which there always is, I teach them how to re-train their brain to engage in each positive experience by pausing to actively weave it into their brains neural circuitry.
This can be done in a relatively short amount of time with outstanding results.
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