How to Find a Good Coach and Get the Most of Out of Coaching
Find a coach with a similar story, who understands you, that you feel good about. Let them help you dig deep to clear and get clarity on your future.
What to Look for When Seeking out a Coach:
1. A coach who has a similar story is beneficial as they have been there. Working with someone who understands your issues firsthand is powerful.
2. A coach you feel comfortable with, who you can connect with well. Where you feel and know they genuinely care about you and your progress. A coach who takes the time to listen to you and hear you is what you want.
3. A coach who will call you out on your weakness, shortcomings, or issues will make you stronger. Someone you feel is being honest and authentic with you, which often means they will bring up the tough stuff and clear the real issues that keep you unhappy or stuck in life. You will always make more rapid progress when you address the underlying issues.
4. A coach who understands and knows what to do to clear old childhood trauma, abuse, or neglect. Many people who had these experiences in their childhood have no idea how much it limits them and affects them in their current lives.
Do you Have a Similar Story to Me?
My story includes struggling with self-esteem issues around fitting in and being liked during my formative years, which I overcame. After graduating from college, I became a strategic player and leader in a fast-growing company. I founded the HR department and helped create a game-changing culture. I didn’t know how to stop and experienced ongoing stress-related diseases until my doctor told me I could die if I didn’t stop. After leaving my career, I started all over as an intuitive energy-based life, career, and business coach and created a life I love where I no longer get stressed or ill. These life experiences put me clearly into five camps for potential clients.
1. If you are a leader in a company experiencing fast growth and want help stabilizing processes, seeing what is possible, and creating a loyal game-changing culture, I would be an excellent match for you as that is what I did and have helped countless others do.
2. If you are ready for a career change in mid-life and want to move into a new field that is more meaningful and fulfilling, that is precisely what I did and have helped hundreds of others do also. I can help you identify what resonates with you that you are qualified to do and help you transition. If you are going to work for someone else, my HR background strengthened my ability to help people create outstanding resumes that get them in the door, and I spend time coaching you on the interview process so you can nail it.
3. If you are suffering from stress, overwhelm, and even stress-related diseases or feeling stuck in life, I am the right choice as that was my story. I had these high expectations ingrained in me that I had to work hard to succeed, and I could not turn off. I learned the hard way how to move out of that mindset. I had to clear these old beliefs and focus on what kind of beliefs would support the life I dreamed of having. And I got there. I healed myself, have created new habits and practices that make me more productive, happier, and healthier, and I am committed to helping others do the same. Productive.
4. If you faced self-esteem or self-confidence issues around being liked and fitting in, I have been there. I struggled during my junior and High School years and made stupid decisions to be liked and accepted. I understand how that feels and am a good fit for people who went through those years or even still feel that way today.
5. If you are open to energy-based work, I am perfect for you as an intuitive, energy-based coach. Most people do not realize that our energy is the primary underlying factor beneath our happiness and health. If you have good energy, you will feel better and have more energy. If you are drained or have no energy, this is when you might feel depressed or get sick. I can help you understand and manage your energy in a way that enables you to create the life you dreamed of and get out of feeling stuck.
What Should You Expect From A Coach?
1. A good coach will understand how you feel and connect at that level because they have been there. They will be empathetic but will not allow you to wallow in your stuff. They will know how to pull you out and move you in the direction you desire. They will have the skills to help you get unstuck and clarify where you want to go.
2. A good coach will help you identify and overcome issues or challenges that keep you from living your best life or being your true self. Being honest about your struggles or pains is critical. I have always said your greatest pain is your greatest gain. I have personally experienced how difficult, painful, and uncomfortable it can be to bare your soul or to be called out on things, but that is where you will experience the most significant growth. You want a coach that will help pull out these issues and help you process and clear these old issues and pains so you can move on.
3. A good coach can move beyond what you “think” is wrong and intuitively help you get to the core issue underlying your struggles and clear it. It is often not the problem you are facing but the root cause of that problem. For instance, you may always be combative and hard to get along with; you want a coach that can go back in time and identify the reasons you react to the world that way. A high percentage of the time, it is based on a childhood trauma where you were treated that way and learned and ingrained that way of being into your psyche. You want someone who can help you dig deep, identify those old pains and clear them out of your psyche so you can begin to operate in the world differently. I did this when I overcame my need for perfection and working hard to be successful.
4. A good coach will help you learn the tools to do it on your own without a coach. My personal goal is to work my way of always needing to be there for someone. I want to be the person they come back to when they experience new challenges. I have some clients who meet with me every few weeks, once per month or once a quarter. Some only show up as needed. It is not the frequency that is important; it is the need. I want to be there for them when they need me but not become a crutch. The exception in this rule is when I am coaching leaders in companies as the game is always changing, and we often need to have set meetings to stay on top of the changing landscape and issues they face.
5. A good coach doesn’t just sell a package of time to you whether you need it or not. I have found some people need one coaching session, and they can take off. I started offering packages but found that wasn’t the most effective way to meet my clients’ needs. I now tend to coach them only as long as they need me, and I am usually a pretty good judge of what that will be. For some who are more independent, it may only take 1 to 3 sessions. Those who want more direction may need 5 to 10 sessions, depending on what they want to accomplish. But a 6-pack or a 12-pack mentality is coach-based and not client-based. I operate from a place of meeting client needs.
I encourage you to sit down and identify what you want to work on and then look for a coach who feels right to you with similar life experiences and can help you clear old issues and move into creating a life you love.