Your Committee Is Holding You Back
Posted on February 20, 2023 by Bryan Yates, One of Thousands of Performance Coaches on Noomii.
I didn't truly start to emotionally mature until I started the rigorous excavation of what lay underneath my elaborately constructed ....
“The Committee In My Head
Any time I’m alone with my mind, I’m outnumbered. Unsupervised, my mind consists of a talkative, rowdy, unorganized group of personalities with no apparent plan or sense of direction. Until recovery. I hadn’t realized that, at birth. Iwas expected to assume the role of chairman of the groun. We, the personalities and I, traveled through life like a crowded tour bus with no driver.
One of the passengers drove for a while in any direction. After a while, another passenger took over without talking to the first. Later, a third drove wherever he wanted until someone took over from him. Later, we all wondered why we never got anywhere."
Any of this reading feel familiar?
I’m not going to tell you where this particular reading is from. That’s a little too personal. I will say that I don’t think I truly started to emotionally mature until I started the rigorous excavation of what lay underneath my elaborately constructed personae. Only then did I learn to work differently with my Committee, to use different tools to make the committee be a collaborator rather than a competitor.
We all, each one of us, pulled by unseen threads to invisible attachments. Everyone has their own mechanisms for managing the stresses those attachments cause. Here are a few examples that come to mind:
- People Pleasing & Over Attaching to Others
- Manipulating
- Self Medicating
- Food
- Sex
- Isolating & Avoiding
- Workaholism
- Excessive Fitness
I’ve done many of these.
When I talk with coaching clients about “giving away our power,” invisible attachments and their associated consequences are a significant part of the conversation. Unless you’ve done the inner work, it’s often too hard to see where, how, and why we’re giving it away.
Although I won’t share the origin of this reading (you’ll have to find it on your own), I’ll happily talk with you about your Committee. I’ll share with you stories about mine. In that sharing, that’s where the seeds of inner growth and freedom are planted.
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” — Seneca
peace & serenity,
Bryan
